How to “Let Go” of Someone

Photo Credit: HD Wallpapers

Photo Credit: HD Wallpapers

The act of letting go – whether it’s a significant other, close friend, or family member – implies that it’s someone you don’t want to let go of. If it were someone whom you don’t mind walking out of your life, then you’re not holding on to them in the first place to have to let them go. So yes, letting go of someone is defined as having the strength to release the strong grip you have on your past relationship with them, which has now changed.

There’s a plethora of articles, self-help books, therapists, and various methods to help you with the “letting go process”. With that, I’d like to share some of my methods:

  • Keep busy with activities, clubs, exercise, projects, shows, YouTube, and anything that you can focus on or mindlessly pass the time with. Basically, you’re trying to distract yourself from thinking about that person as much as possible.

  • Achieve success in anything. Going off of the previous bullet point, if you’re going to keep yourself busy, might as well accomplish something. Yes, success is the best revenge, but it’s also the best way to remind you of your own capabilities. Then you can thank this said person for kick starting your success, eh?

  • Treat yo self. Allow Tom and Donna from Parks and Rec to explain:

  • Make it a game. Take the previous bullet to the next level and treat yo self for every month you do not attempt to think about, reach out, or stalk this person. Warning: this can get expensive real quick.

  • Listen to music. I like to find that right song that expresses how I cared so much about this person and how I’ll be okay. If there is no song that expresses it, I’ll write it myself (and record it).

  • Spend more time with other people. Sure, you can call them rebound people. But only if you think of it that way. I look at it as a way of life leading you to someone new. When I had a falling out with my high school best friend, one of my close friends whom I knew before her was there to support me through the whole thing and we are best friends till this day.

  • Using symbolic actions such as putting away a picture you had up of them can have a great effect on your mindset. But don’t throw them away because it’s a memento of that stage in your life!

It all boils down to controlling yourself from falling into the pit of nostalgia, regret, and self-blame. However, I don’t believe that you ever really let go of someone. They’ve made an imprint on you and they’ve helped shaped the person you are today for better or for worse. They will always be a part of you as cliche as it sounds.

In fact, I think “letting go” is the incorrect term for this process. Letting go is releasing the past, while moving on is looking forward to the future. And as stated in quite a few of our posts and videos, we need the past in order to make a better future. So what we’re actually doing is moving on. It’s just unfortunate that time stops for no one, even for the best of relationships. The only thing we can try to do is move forward with time and never let go of the experiences we’ve gained.

Assuming you’ve watched Titanic: although we complain about Rose physically letting go of Jack after she said she never would, we all knew what she meant. She never let go of him in her heart and mind. In the end of the movie, you see all the things she’s accomplished in her life through her framed photos. She wouldn’t have done so if it weren’t for Jack coming into her life. Let’s take after Rose. Never let go. Only move on.

About Ronnell Morris

Ronnell is the Co-Founder and Editor-in-Chief of NWYT. She is a copywriter by day, a performer by night, and a triathlete by weekend. She loves Disney, musicals, eating, YouTube videos, list-making, and the colors pink and gray too much for her own good. See All of Ronnell's Posts

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