The Most Beautiful Thing On Earth

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I cannot think of anything more evil than divorce.  I’m not merely talking about marital divorce, but rather any great separation from those we love or have loved—be it through falling out, break-up, legal divorce, or death—is the clearest portrayal of Hell on Earth.

 If you think that I’m being a bit strong with this topic by calling it evil, think about it.  Despite the differences between the secular and sacred worlds (of all cultures), is not love something all people agree as an [if not, the most] important value?  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.  Allah is with those who are of service to others.  And is not love intimacy?  Is not love communion with others?  Then is not the antithesis of love separation?

 Granted, there are reasons for separation.  By no means am I rebuking an individual for leaving a loved one due to an abusive relationship.  In this hypothetical, the fact that a relationship got to that point is terrible in and of itself.

That all said, I cannot think of anything more beautiful than reconciliation.  Because, let’s be real: separation happens in every relationship.  People move.  Life happens.  Passion dwindles. Problems occur in every type of relationship and the wider the separation, the more painful it gets.  With that, there is no greater joy than for a loved one that has been distant for a while returning to say (in one way or another) “I love you.”

For me, that’s what made the finale of The Legend of Korra so emotional: the reconciliation of Hiroshi and his daughter Asami.  For those who do not follow the show (warning: SPOILERS), four years after nearly killing his daughter out of rage, from prison, Hiroshi attempts to contact his daughter Asami.

Despite the hatred that Asami must’ve felt, despite the shame Hiroshi must’ve bore, the two met nonetheless because they had something before.  In honor of their past love, they met and eventually reconciled.  (You can find out what happens after that on your own)

But what does it take to reconcile?  How does one heal past wounds?  I’ve only been on this Earth for 24 years, so I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have all the answers.  But from my experience, the two ingredients to mend a relationship are humility and patience.  The only way to bridge separation is not seeking justice and not having a deadline for reconciliation.  Often times, when a problem arises between friends, we seek to be understood.  But if we seek for our own pains to be affirmed, how can we receive a friendship?  No.  It is only when we approach a hurt humbly that wounds may heal.

But that hardly aligns with the 21st c. Western mentality.  Modern media venerates the Titans, pushing us to seize our own future.  Carpe diem!  Do not go gentle into that good night.  We are supposed to be in control of our own lives.  Also, modern media shows that we should love ourselves.  Being selfish isn’t a bad thing.  Lastly, in modern society, things need to happen now or there will never be another chance. It’s now or never.

While that all has validity, it has a time and place, and it does not belong in the realm of reconciliation.  Love is neither selfish nor selfless.  Compassion is not formed through force or will, but rather by the bending of the knee.  Even though it is more humbling than you’d want and you will not receive the justice you feel that you deserve, to have a chance of restoring what was lost, perhaps is worth taking a knee.

It should be noted that successful reconciliation is not a time machine.  What was lost is lost.  The person you knew before the incident will not be the same on this side of the abyss.  Reconciliation in this life is not restoration.  But to struggle is worth it to rekindle a love of old.  The lowering of pride is worth amending a friendship.  To run like a fool with open arms is worth partaking in the most beautiful act on Earth.

About Jonathan Seligman

Jon is the Co-Founder and Executive Editor of NWYT. While his main profession is in education/music/history, he has a deep passion for philosophy, theology, ice cream, and everything else that life has to offer. See All of Jon's Posts

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